52 Weeks, 52 resolutions in my humble quest to be a better wife, mother, friend, survivor

Week 3: Shut your mouth and open your heart January 17, 2012

Filed under: Uncategorized — lputhenp @ 7:40 pm

This week’s resolution is to do less talking and more listening.  I like to listen to people.  I would even venture to say I am a good listener.  Has anyone noticed how I always start these resolutions by complimenting myself on how good I already am?  I guess I am humble like that.  Anyhoo, I do like to listen to people tell me all about their problems.  The problem is that then I like to try to fix them.  I love giving advice.  This could also stem from my over-inflated sense of self.  I think I give great advice and sometimes I even do.  Though sometimes in my rush to offer my fix, I don’t really take the time to listen and acknowledge the issue in the first place.  Classically, this happens with my husband.  I am super and telling him how to fix his problems.  So super that sometimes, he doesn’t even get to finish explaining the problem.  I fix the implied and unspoken problems even.  You can imagine how un-annoying that is!    This week though, I just aim to listen to people and make them feel heard.  No fixes, just open ears is what I offer this week.  I may just even learn something I didn’t already know myself.



2 Responses to “Week 3: Shut your mouth and open your heart”

  1. Sandy Says:

    Whoa…this sounds just like I wrote this!!

  2. That sounds like a splendid idea. I am a fixer too…. I think a lot of people are. Glenn often wants to fix the things I talk about and he doesn’t realize, I just wanted to vent…. So…. I may try this too this week. But then again, I’m a Realtor, fixing things is my job.

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