This week’s resolution is to do less talking and more listening. I like to listen to people. I would even venture to say I am a good listener. Has anyone noticed how I always start these resolutions by complimenting myself on how good I already am? I guess I am humble like that. Anyhoo, I do like to listen to people tell me all about their problems. The problem is that then I like to try to fix them. I love giving advice. This could also stem from my over-inflated sense of self. I think I give great advice and sometimes I even do. Though sometimes in my rush to offer my fix, I don’t really take the time to listen and acknowledge the issue in the first place. Classically, this happens with my husband. I am super and telling him how to fix his problems. So super that sometimes, he doesn’t even get to finish explaining the problem. I fix the implied and unspoken problems even. You can imagine how un-annoying that is! This week though, I just aim to listen to people and make them feel heard. No fixes, just open ears is what I offer this week. I may just even learn something I didn’t already know myself.
Whoa…this sounds just like I wrote this!!
That sounds like a splendid idea. I am a fixer too…. I think a lot of people are. Glenn often wants to fix the things I talk about and he doesn’t realize, I just wanted to vent…. So…. I may try this too this week. But then again, I’m a Realtor, fixing things is my job.