As most of you know we are planning a trip to Yosemite. Invariably, at work and at play we often focus on the past and future at the cost of the present. Next week, I resolve to put the present in the spotlight. This is harder than you might think especially for Rob and me. Planning and delaying gratification are essential to becoming a good physician but we elevate it to an art form. We max out retirement accounts, drive a 13-year-old minivan, and still use the same bedroom furniture that we got from a thrift store in college. This is the first nuclear family vacation we have ever taken that didn’t also involve a conference. Some of that is because of the big C but not all. Next week though, I plan to throw planning out the window and just exist moment to precious moment. By the way I do realize I just stated I plan to not plan but baby steps ya know.
We are trying to go into next week with no expectations other than to be together as a family and see what kind of tree trouble we can get into. The only goal Rob has set for the trip is to spend one afternoon napping with our children. Don’t worry I will pack sunscreen, and bug spray, and layers. But, I will make a real effort to not look too far into the future while at Yosemite. I resolve to not think about next week, or next year because the false sense of control planning gives me is folly. Nothing is guaranteed and this resolution will pay homage to that fact.
People often say that vacations will produce memories that last a lifetime. Making memories are a funny thing. Joe had a first grade choral concert the other day and I was amazed at all the parents who spent the entire concert jockeying for position with their smart phones to capture the concert in video. They ended up watching the entire thing live via their phone instead of with their own eyes. I can’t help but think none of them will ever re watch the rousing rendition of Alabama Gals again but live in person it was perfection. So while we will surely take pictures in the park I won’t waste time getting the perfect pose.
Next week will surely be a challenge but if we can meet it in any way it will be a gift. As Mother Theresa once said, ” Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin.”